Am an avid newspaper reader ,especially the weekend editions, I spend a greater percentage of my time in the library reading the latest copy, but I digress, in the Saturday Nation, a guy seeking to divorce his wife petitioned the wife to pay him for the dowry he had paid when they were getting married. The court acted in his favor, and asked the wife to pay him half the amount, plus interest.
I'm totally not in support of this, I mean the minute we divorce I pay you back dowry? Was I an investment plan?? Njoki of course had a lot to say about this, and for once I agreed with her, partly,
The part that really got to me was when she 'outlined' what your husband should do for you, and, wait for it, drumrolls.... pay your rent, buy you a house, a car and service it, pay your Masters degree, give you money to send to your mother (LOL!! DGD!! GOR!!), give you money to buy dresses and shoes, create an emergency fund for you, and the list goes on and on..
The main question I had was is this guy your husband or father or money machine?? that list really baffled me, and I asked myself am I the one underestimating our men or is she expecting too much??
I honestly do not expect my guy to be catering for all my expenses, whether husband or boyfriend. why then will I be working?? to spend all my money on manicures and pedicures and spa treatments?? Buy me a dress once in a while not daily, fuel my car when you use it, and don't pay for my masters, am the one studying, not you. as for sending my mum money, only I can do that, thank you.
To the guys, what will you do in terms of buying and spending for your wives and girlfriends??
To the ladies, am I expecting too little?
Both of them are jokers and in my judgement never understood the meaning and value of marriage to begin with. Marriage is about sharing, love and support in all things and situations till death do you part. That may be idealistic but that's God's standard and marriage was his idea. As for what a guy should do and a lady expect, it depends on their understanding of what I said up there...
ReplyDeletewill you buy your wife a car, service it and fuel it??
ReplyDeleteI actually agree with njoki, the thing about men is if you do not spend his money, someone else will. in most cases it is usually another woman. so burn that money girl. His money is ours, my money is mine. if you leave him with all that extra change what is he gonna do with all that money? He should fuel my car, buy pampers, pay rent, electricity, water, etc. so that at the end of it all, the only extra cash he has is what he needs. after all mwanaume ni wallet
ReplyDeletethe only thing your money should do in that house is buy groceries and food. everything else should be the man, show me one man who wishes his wife made more money than him or is 100% comfortable with his wife bringing the big bucks home and i will show you a liar or take back my statement. its all evolutionary. since we are no longer hunters and gatherers, they are not bringing home gazelles, they are bringing home money... which you should spend. you can chip in occasionally but let him do the most
Deleteso essentially he should pay for and buy everything in the house??
ReplyDeleteexactly,
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